Saturday, October 29, 2016

To My Sister on her Wedding Day

Today is the day you thought would never come. 

Today is the day you pretended not to dream about. 

Today is the day you make promises to a man as he makes promises to you. 

Today is the first day of the next Great Adventure for you and your Beloved. 

And I am so elated for the two of you! 

Marriage can be so much fun! You have someone who loves you and supports you. Someone who makes you laugh when you want to cry. Someone who understands your trigger points and never uses them against you. Someone who gets you. Someone who loves you where you are. Someone you want to see at the start and end of every day. Someone you can't imagine ever being without. 

But sometimes marriage can be not so much fun.  Partners don't automatically know if they've upset you. Honesty is important. Sometimes adulting is hard and we take it out on the ones that mean the most to us. Sometimes our expectations outweigh reality and disappointment can cause issues. Marriage isn't about changing the other person. Marriage is about learning to handle your stuff and their stuff at the same time. Marriage is a great balancing act. 

Love feels easy when it's right. 

You and Jon are right. 

So love each other hard. And find humor. And find joy. 

And if things get grey, find the light because it's always there. 

Fight for it. Always. 

I know today will be a bit bittersweet. You will have a beautiful day and a wonderful time, but there will be a little piece missing. I understand. My heart tells me Daddy would have liked Jon. Rest assured he's with you. 

Today will go by SOOOOOO super fast! It will be a blur of excitement and nerves and joy. You will be surrounded by people who love you and want only the best for you. So find a quiet moment and soak it all in. It's all about you and Jon. Every moment is about the love you two found and the life you will build together. Today is your day. 

So.....

Today you will shine in wedded bliss.

Today you will walk down the aisle Miss Martin and back up the aisle Mrs. Phillips. 

Today you say, "I do!"

Today YOU HAVE TO MOVE IN WITH A BOY!!! 

Today starts all the new tomorrows with your Beloved.

MY BABY SISTER IS GETTING MARRIED!!!!!! 

Congratulations, Tami and Jon!

We love you!! 



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